Is Alcohol Stealing Your Power?

"because alcohol is encouraged by our culture, we get the idea that it isn't dangerous. however, alcohol is the most potent and most toxic of the legal psychoactive drugs"

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Do you have a tendency to drink when you’re happy and have something to celebrate?

Do you drink to drown your sorrows?

Perhaps you tend to reach for a drink after a hard day’s work or maybe you simply enjoy socialising with a nice glass of wine or bottle of cold beer.

On the face of it, there really doesn’t appear to be anything wrong with enjoying the odd glass here and there, but it might be useful to take a look at the exact nature of our relationship with alcohol.

Most people tend to drink to relieve stress or simply to alter their emotional state to one that they believe will make them feel better in the short term.

What we fail to realise though, is that alcohol is highly addictive and it can have a very negative impact on our lives both mentally and physically. It can destroy relationships, careers, health, finances and so on.

“I gasped when I suddenly realized that EVERY one of my hangovers was a small death–a little death, but a death all the same … we, as alcoholics, put ourselves through a death every single day, for months, years, decades. How cruel we are to ourselves! Our bodies, minds, and souls deserve so much more” – drunky drunk girl

 It’s my view that alcohol can absolutely steal your personal power and prevent you from reaching your full potential and becoming the very best version of yourself.

The way I see it, personal power is the energy that we create within ourselves – it’s the vital energy that puts us on the path to becoming the best that we can be.

Alcohol can be the ultimate confidence trickster often deceiving us into believing that consuming it will be of benefit to us and somehow improve our ability to navigate the world.

At best  the excessive consumption of alcohol will keep you living a very average life with your  goals forever resigned to a place on your to do list while you exist on a very mundane and unfulfilling level.

At worst it will lead to a premature death!

Alcohol ( especially when consumed excessively)  steals our personal power specifically by dumbing us down, making us feel numb and disrupting our energy in different areas of our lives.

“Alcohol is a make – you – stupid drug” –  beverly a. potter & sebastian orfarli

The vital energies that it steals from us are mainly

  • Hope – No matter what is happening in our lives, hope is the invisible force that inspires us to be optimistic and keep moving forward.  Hope helps to pick us up when we’re down. Alcohol steals hope by numbing us and making us feel stuck. It prevents us from re-committing to future goals and from trying to repair broken relationships.
  • Happiness and Joy – Its been said that when you drink alcohol you are simply borrowing happiness from tomorrow and I can definitely relate to that. For most people drinking alcohol always feels good in the moment. Those “feel good” chemicals that are released by the brain give us a nice buzz. However those “feel good” chemicals are subsequently followed by stress hormones which create in us  an energy of anxiety which tends to last far longer than the initial buzz. So that’s how this trickster works – “Feel Good Now – Pay Later”.  Some people develop a tolerance to alcohol  and this tolerance simply creates an inner feeling of numbness and reduces our ability to experience joy and happiness on deep levels.
  • Creativity – If you’re doing creative work and need to be in a creative zone then don’t drink because quite simply, alcohol will dumb down your brain and sabotage your creativity. When you’re feeling creative, alcohol can be very deceptive. It will promise to bring you fresh ideas and creativity but instead will make you feel lethargic, distracted and restless. In short  drinking alcohol simply doesn’t provide a shortcut to creative ideas and will easily zap your creative motivation.
  • Productivity- Despite the initial buzz and feeling of relaxation that we get from alcohol, alcohol is actually a depressant that lowers serotonin levels in the brain. This then leads to a diminished mood and increased levels of anxiety and depression. This is why we feel so “bluh”, lazy and unmotivated on the days after drinking.
  • Connection to Inner/Higher Self – Well lets face it, most people either consciously or sub consciously drink booze as a way to help then drown out the noise of life and to numb their feelings. The problem with this is that it has the effect of also numbing our connection to our own inner being and drowning out the sound of our intuition.
  • Confidence and Self Belief – When we drink, we tend to experience a temporary boost to our levels of confidence and self belief. The effects of alcohol temporarily reduce our feelings of fear and anxiety and lower our inhibitions. However these effects  quickly wear off and are replaced with more negative feelings such as depression, anxiety, fear anger,reduced self confidence and minimal self belief.
  • Good Health – It’s a documented fact that alcohol leads to all kinds of health complications including DNA and Cell damage.
  •  Other ways in which alcohol is stealing your powerare that you’ll find that:  Your Workouts Suffer – Alcohol consumption is bad news for any fitness activity and can affect your body and brain for several days. Having alcohol in your system can slow your recovery and lead to endurance destroying dehydration.  It can also break down the muscle in certain areas especially thighs and glutes .  Do also bear in mind that any inflammation brought on by exercise will simply pile on top of the inflammation already caused by alcohol – It Increases Your Appetite and Consequently Your Weight – It Leaves You Fatigued and Zaps Your Brain Power – It Raises Your Blood Pressure  – Ruins Your Sleep – Dehydrates you and is bad for your skin- Increases Your Risk of Death – Excessive alcohol use accounts for upto 10% of deaths for adults between 20 and 64 (according to the Centre for Disease Control and Prevention)

As a result of  cultural standards most people don’t believe that their drinking habits are anything to worry about and silently struggle in what is known as  the grey area of drinking.

The term “Grey area drinking” describes someone who drinks more than they should but is not considered an alcoholic.

Anyone who is  unclear about whether their drinking is problematic will relate to the term “grey area drinking”

Society has us believing that we have to “hit rock bottom” before our drinking becomes a problem that has to be dealt with.

Some of the signs of grey area drinking include:

  • The inability to socialize, be intimate,cook, relax or take part in any other ritual without drinking.
  • Frequently having regrets about the amounts of alcohol consumed.
  • Beginning to sense that alcohol is starting to impact your physical or mental well being
  • Intentionally using alcohol to shift your mood and emotions.
  • Having to hide your drinking , especially when drinking alone.
  • Knowing that you can stop drinking but not being able to do so for long periods of time.
  • Physical side effects including hangovers

 So as you can see – Alcohol can absolutely steal your power and rob you of your spark and zest for life!

Some people spend so much time going round in circles, spending so much time, money and head space trying to figure out why they feel so numb and trying to regain their spark and zest for life  when all they need really need to do, is re evaluate their relationship with alcohol.

Changing your relationship with alcohol may well be the most empowering thing you could ever do.

Understanding the impact that alcohol has on our lives begins with understanding the thoughts and emotions that we have around it. We should ask ourselves why we drink and evaluate the beliefs we hold about alcohol and where they come from.

“One key symptom of alcoholism is that the individual comes to need a drink for every mood–one to calm down, one to perk up, one to celebrate, one to deal with disappointment and so on” – phyllis a. balch

One of the best decisions that I’ve  ever made was to drastically reduce my alcohol intake almost to the point of being teetotal except for very special occasions. Since my mid teens alcohol has played a big part of my life because society makes its consumption so acceptable unlike other drugs.

Alcohol was always a great ally for me because I could use it to get through social interactions and just switch off whenever life became challenging as it quite often did.

Luckily I’ve seen the light and understand just how deceptive and destructive alcohol can be. I refuse to let it steal my power and so should you.

Once you’re able to take back your power in this way then you’ll start to experience some remarkable things, namely:

  • You have better control of your life
  • You’ll be more productive
  • You’ll have improved mental and physical health
  • You will no longer be prone to letting yourself down hence you’ll have a deeper level of self confidence
  • Never feeling hungover – Is 6 hours of drinking really worth 3 days of brain fog?
  • You will be forced to deal with your unhealed traumas and unprocessed emotions
  • You’ll have greater clarity on the things that bring you joy.
Reclaiming your power in this way may well be one of the best decisions you ever make. Not only will it help you to see things so much more clearly but it will help to put that much needed SPARK back into your life and put you back on the path to becoming the best version of you.
Let me know your thoughts

15 thoughts on “Is Alcohol Stealing Your Power?”

  1. I actually agree with all of this. My boss and I were discussing the other day how often we say we need to start drinking more but the reality is, we both rarely drink. Here’s why… Need a clear head to focus on responsibilities and do our jobs effectively. One thing I’ve noticed with some of my colleagues, is when they start drinking they slowly fall off a cliff into the abyss. It’s never just one glass, it’s several and their productivity, memory, judgement and focus becomes increasingly impaired. Their attitudes are almost depressive. When I drink which is rare these days, I notice a change in how I breathe through my nose, it feels irritated and congested. I find I’m bloated the next day. It can cause me to have disrupted sleep and plays havoc with hormones, skin etc. I don’t mind a glass or two once in a while but when I look back to my younger self, I made so many poor decisions when inebriated and I was largely doing it to fit in. Now I’m happier only drinking when I want to not because everyone else is doing it and I find drinking slowly means you actually enjoy a tipple more rather than guzzling yourself into oblivion.

    1. An excellent essay on a very important topic. . Alcohol addiction and abuse, is an old and perennial problem, and as you have stressed that should be tackled head on in order to live a happy and fulfilling life.

      If one looks objectively at ones peers, we realize that many of those who do not drink or drink in moderation, tend to have a head start, and a more stable and balanced professional and personal life , over others who do not.

      As you have mentioned there is no occasion in which there is no excuse or temptation to take a drink, be it to celebrate, to drown ones sorrows or to take recourse to it, after a hard days work. You have also rightly stressed, on the addictive aspect, that a regular intake engenders .

      Alcohol as you rightly say is the “confidence trickster” . It is retards hope ,happiness, productivity and diminishes joy and creativity.

      More importantly as you have said it numbs our connection to our inner / higher self.

      You have also very concisely pinpointed the symptoms and results of those who are in the “grey area of drinking ” which is not far removed from outright alcoholism, when there is a battle within to combat a growing and seemingly irreversible desire to drink.

      ” Changing your relationship with alcohol ” is a very good piece of advice given by you. It marks a trend shift in ones life and like a plane or ship changing course, it takes you to a better destination.

      Your words have a ring of authenticity as you speak from personal experience and have yourself seen its very deceptive and destructive potential and having seen the light were able to refuse it to steal your powers.

      A very enlightening and timely discourse . As always you shine the light on important and very profound matters giving a refreshing analysis and very practical and down to earth solutions.

      I always make it a point to read your posts. They are very insightful and have the potential to transform our lives.

      Keep up the good work.

  2. Excellent points Antonia, here’s some pointed data-points that may cause people to pause or minimize alcohol.
    Health Risks: Chronic alcohol consumption can lead to serious health complications such as liver disease, heart disease, and an increased risk of certain types of cancer, including breast and mouth cancer.

    Dependency: Regular consumption of alcohol can lead to dependence and addiction, which can disrupt life and relationships, and may require professional treatment to overcome.

    Mental Health: Excessive drinking can contribute to mental health issues like depression and anxiety, and can exacerbate existing mental health conditions.

    Financial Impact: Spending money on alcohol regularly can lead to significant financial stress, especially when the consumption is heavy.

    Physical and Cognitive Impairment: Alcohol impairs physical coordination and cognitive functions, leading to increased risk of injuries, accidents, poor decision-making, and impaired judgement.

  3. Why drink alcohol?
    Maybe coca cola is a better option. It may not be sugar-free, but it has refreshing bubbles, it is equally addictive, and not harmful !

  4. A great insight into the dangers psychologically and physically on the dangers of Alcohol addiction.
    If you’re health conscious this article will keep you on the straight and narrow. If affected by alcoholism always seek professional help.

  5. green scepter

    I read that spiritually, alcohol punctures your aura and allows negative energy come in. Thank you for this piece Antonia. Very insightful as always.

  6. Very well said. Can’t agree more with every bit of it and it’s not difficult for me to skip the temptation of having it. I feel for people who think they need alcohol to perform though as to me they are hiding their own beings.

  7. It’s such a slippery slope when you start getting dependent on alcohol and you might not even realise it’s happening!
    Such a good read! X

  8. Very interesting article and makes me think how students cope with the peer pressure of drinking at university. The only point I’m not sure I completely agree with is that alcohol hinders creativity – many of the great writers (for example) used alcohol creating a psychological connection between their respective addictions and creative genius. Saying that, i’m not selling the idea of alcohol.

  9. For me personally, the reason I found this recent blog so useful, is because unlike so many other write-ups that warn us of the perils of drinking too much, Antonia’s blog doesn’t patronise the reader. Instead, it informatively reminds us, in a very straightforward way, of the dangers we unwittingly subject ourselves to, when we fail to control our relationship with alcohol and allow it to control us.
    This article outlines the pitfalls and dangers, advises us to to drink responsibly, and then very cleverly nudges us in the direction of advising ourselves of the same. Clever and thought provoking. A great read.

  10. Daniel Geller

    Couldn’t agree more with all this. And you’ve stimulated some great comments. Well done Antonia. You are so helpful for so many people. A brilliant life coach, a true natural.

  11. I so agree with this. It’s socially awkward if you don’t drink! Should be the other way round. We should be able to go out and have a great night without relying on alcohol to do this.

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